I know. It sounds silly, right? Hear…Silence? But stick with me.
I’m sure you’ve been trying to do something that seems like it should be easier. Someone else always needs or wants something, or something else comes up.
Some of you are putting your child’s wants ahead of your needs because you had an absent father, and it’s your own fear driving that behavior. Teach that child to be independent. Set boundaries that give you the space to achieve.
You Need to Prioritize Silence
In order to create the life you desire, you’ll have to make space for yourself.
Really. Right now. Get somewhere alone, and be quiet… and listen. Do you hear voices?
Do you hear an audio book, or maybe a Youtube video? Is your spouse talking to you, or are you trying to interact with one of your kids? While you’re working those are all distractions.
When distracted, You notice everything. Ambient sounds like the buzz of the icemaker, or the hum of the air-conditioner. If you’re partially into the words you’re now reading and somewhat into words you’re hearing, you’re not giving your undivided attention to either.
When You find silence, you can clear your mind. You can then take your mind wherever you’d like it to go.
Can you afford distractions?
Most people can’t. Distractions ruin their days.
I’m pretty easily distracted, and focus is something I have to be intentional about maintaining. I strive to transition efficiently between tasks. It’s never easy. I waited for my son to turn off the TV and wifey to finish sharing some urgent information to get these few words written. I became fully invested to avoid wasting time and feeling completely unproductive.
Developing the ability to concentrate can lead to an efficient brain that makes efficient plans and executes efficiently.
So set limits for yourself. Create Safe spaces free from interaction. Disconnect from anything other than what should be your focus, and strive to be fully present. Don’t allow distractions to keep you from maximizing your efforts and getting the most out of your time.
Lost time isn’t like list items. There is no container you can look into to find it. It’s lost forever.
So get quiet enough to hear yourself think. Get so quiet that you’re not aware of possible distractions.
Then plan, and execute.